“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” George Elliot
Oh boy, do I know about resolutions. Over the past 15 years or so, I’ve swung wildly back and forth from a staggering list of 20 or more (five different category) resolutions, to defiantly spitting on anything that had to do with the bullshit of self-improvement. Some were accomplished, most given up on, but none of which I’ve regretted. I’d like to think it’s all been part of the process of becoming…whatever or whoever I’m meant to be, who I am right now.
I do love the idea of the new year and a fresh start. Although knowing that time is just a man made illusion, with no real beginnings or ends, and we can always begin at any point, there’s just something about the energy around the new year and the collective consciousness of beginning together. So therefore I continue, year after year, to contribute to this energy by setting some resolutions of my own. Although, rather than call them resolutions, I prefer to say intentions, because it feels like there is more power and purpose behind that word.
In the past, resolutions for me were all about not feeling good enough. Always feeling like I needed to improve myself to be and feel better, because I didn’t particularly like or respect myself. What inevitably followed was self-loathing when I didn’t become what I thought I should be (there’s that nasty word “should” again), which led to more unworthiness and an endless cycle of beating myself up then trying to be better. Sound at all familiar?
Now that I like who I am and respect myself more, I realize that it’s ok to examine and evaluate our lives, noticing what’s working and what’s not, and making positive changes, as long as the energy behind it is coming from a place of love, not self-hatred.
My hope for you and for us all, is that as we’re making our new year intentions, we keep in mind that there is no one better to be and nowhere better to be. We are never off track. We are always on our unique path. We are always whole, perfect and complete just as we are. Say those words to yourself, replacing “we” with “I”, before setting your intentions and notice how it makes you feel. Notice how your energy changes. Take five long, deep breaths, then write your intentions for the year.
As for my intentions for 2016, I’d like to center around the health of my whole being – body, mind, emotions, spirit – because health really is everything and until we are truly healthy, there’s isn’t much energy – physical, mental or emotional – to give to anyone else. I’m striving for a kinder, gentler existence, knowing now that it starts with how I treat myself. So, here are my intentions for this year:
- First and foremost, I am always gentle and easy with myself.
- I rest when I need to rest and listen with love to my body’s messages.
- I do only things I enjoy daily for exercise: yoga, walking, biking.
- I notice my breath as often as I can and take long, deep breaths.
- I choose healthy, nourishing food, thoughts, words and actions, because they are all related.
- I speak my truth with ease and ask with confidence for what I need and want.
And as we all need tools to help us on the journey, here are my favorite affirmations to help keep my mind focused on those intentions:
- I have all the time, space, energy and stength to do everything I want to do in life.
- Life is simple and easy.
- I am so blessed.
- Everything I want I receive. Life just keeps getting better and better.
- I am a fantastic…(insert anything)…mother, writer, artist, yoga teacher, person.
- No matter what I do today, it is enough. I am enough.
- Everything is Divine timing.
- Everything I need to know in any given moment is revealed to me.
- I am happy, healthy and whole.
Happy New Year. I hope it’s your best year yet. Not because of anything you accomplish but simply because you exist and you deserve the best. Sat Nam.